Þæs ofereode, þisses swa mæg (000_hester_000) wrote,
Þæs ofereode, þisses swa mæg
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Familial bitching: feel free to ignore

I've realized one of the things my dad does that makes me dislike him. He has this completely obnoxious habit of stating personal opinions as facts, even when he knows (or ought to know) that they may offend someone else.



For instance, at Thanksgiving, my aunt, who will be known here only as B., was talking about how she has gotten into Ayurvedic medecine, and is taking a class in it. I honestly don't know anything whatsoever about it, save that it's from India, but I thought it sounded interesting.

Now, fast forward to a couple of days later, when one of my mom's friends, the (in)famous Arch-Demon of Knitting, invited us over for a post-Thanksgiving Thanksgiving dinner. We got onto the topic of what we all did for Thanksgiving, and eventually onto the topic of B. and the Ayurvedic medecine. I don't actually remember what specifically my dad said, but the basic drift of it was that he thinks it sounds stupid, and that she's just being silly by believing in it, and also that there's something vaguely suspicious about it. Okay, so he doesn't think it works. He's entitled to his opinion; I'm not going to argue with that. He's also entitled to express it, and I'm not going to argue with that either. What I wish, however, is that he wouldn't phrase it so that the implication is 'and if you disagree with me, you're stupid.' I'm sure that's not what he meant, but it is what I heard. And even though I don't know anything about this specifically, I am interested in some of the other Vedic stuff, like Vedic astrology and the chakras. And since if you've lived with me for pretty much my entire life, you really ought to know that by now. Basically, I felt offended because I felt like if I tried to tell him about what I'm interested in, he would brush me off.

Also, as an aside, is the point even whether Ayurvedic medecine works or not? B. enjoys learning about it. I mean, if I had a serious medical problem, I would trust Western medecine, but that doesn't mean that other traditions aren't also interesting.

And even if you don't find something interesting at all... Personally, I think that Scientology is the dumbest religion on the face of the earth. But if I was talking about it and I knew that somebody who believed in it was in the room, I would restrict what I said to admitting that I don't really know all that much about it. It's common courtesy, okay? fgsfds
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